It is terrible to be with a man who just wants to come and its equally frightful to be with a woman who just wants to give a man. How do you make your partner feel during and after sex?(1). Do you listen to each other during the act? More choices in the 21st century are giving partners more uncertainty and crippling self-doubt. The sexual alchemy: the feeling of aliveness, renewal, vitality and energy is given less importance than the act of sex. It is relationships that have taken the most hit in the last 2-3 decades and part of it is due to overemphasis on sex, changing partners frequently and infidelity.